Conversion: Leadership and Marriage. We perhaps best demonstrate our full acceptance of people into our lives when we allow them to serve in positions of power over us and to penetrate our most intimate circles. A person can be warmly welcomed into a family, a people, a country, a religion and still kept somewhat at bay if these privileges are denied him or her. Can a convert to Judaism serve in all the same leadership positions that are open to native-born Jews? Can a convert marry all Jews?